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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was working for a kosher family before, not as a live-in but still preparing meals and stuff for the kids. Since the parents weren't there I didn't really pay attention or care to stick to their guidelines. They had separate things labeled for different uses but say if I washed a fork or whatever I would just put it back wherever was closest. For the future, if I ever interview with a kosher family with older kids that can talk I wouldn't take the job, it's just not worth the hassle.[/quote]

That is pretty crappy.[/quote]
I agree. But it's pretty farfetched to force a nonbeliever into a believer when they aren't on board with your same beliefs. I think I'd try to get someone on board from the getgo.[/quote]

Jewish person here. It's not forcing someone to believe what you believe when you ask them to maintain your household rituals (that happen to be steeped in religion). It's like the owner of a house saying "We have mail and newspapers delivered daily. Mail goes here in this spot, while the newspaper goes there in that spot. It's very important to us each goes in its respective spot." And then the person saying "Screw that - I'll just toss the mail in the newspaper spot because it's closer to where I'm standing."

To all you non-Jews who worry about screwing up the kosher kitchen, just try your hardest and if you make a mistake, what a rabbi would say is that the mistake is an honest one and it wasn't made by the Jewish person which makes it even less bad, so just try to do it right going forward. I know people who keep Kosher, and when they're having a party or people new to their home, they tape post-its to the different cabinets and drawers that say "Meat" and "Dairy" so it will be easy for others to keep things straight. [/quote]
Here's the thing. For some people, what they do needs to make SOME kind of sense. So if you said please put the mail in the corner of the playroom in the basement, it'd take a pretty special person to do that. And then worry about your kid ripping up your mail. 
Personally, I'm fine with different religious observations. In fact, we traveled quite extensively as children, in order to learn about different cultures.
As a side note, there's a health benefit to the separation of meat and dairy. Few people seem to be aware of that.[/quote]

It's not really the same thing as saying "put the mail in the corner of the playroom in the basement."  It's based on religious beliefs and just because it doesn't make total sense to you doesn't make it ok to be so disrespectful and ignore what is important to them.  FWIW, I'm Jewish but I'm reform and don't keep kosher and really don't understand the strictest of Kosher rules.  With that said though I wouldn't intentionally ignore someone's religious beliefs that are presumably important to them.  As a PP said, if you make an honest mistake no one would be upset about it but to blatantly and purposefully ignore their rules is incredibly obnoxious and doesn't just make you a bad nanny but makes you a bad person.  If it's so much trouble for you to put the utensils and dishes in the right place then you need to do the family a favor and quit so they can find someone more respectful.  How would you feel if a family refused to allow you to follow your personal religious beliefs?  [/quote]

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