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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Cracking up that someone doesn't get why this is a problem.  Every family is different.  They are not interchangeable.  Working for different families requires different things of a nanny and she may wish to set different expectations/rates accordingly.  Furthermore, I am a NANNY because I enjoy building a relationship with my employers and working together for the good of the children, because I am selective in who I work for, and because I want stability in when and how much I am paid and predictability regarding job requirements.  If I didn't care about the relationships, wasn't picky about taking jobs and didn't want stability, I would just work as a temp/backup nanny.  [/quote]

Right.  A nanny isn't property you loan out.[/quote]

Because you are looking at it wrong. Of course you shouldn't be hired by someone who misrepresents themselves and uses you as a free agent nanny to make money on the side, but just like in any REAL job if your boss tells you to go to a different store, office, site, client, whatever you go. Truth is MB probably just didn't need a 5 day a week nanny anymore but likes and respects the OP so she doesn't want to lose her by cutting hours. So she found work for her nearby, it's not like she's sending her to West Virginia. Maybe she isn't the most tactful person but it sounds like she has good intentions, OP isn't out of a job, and isn't falling behind on her bills like all the bad nannies in the credit check whining thread.

I still see no problem with this.[/quote]

I can't figure out whether you are being obtuse.  Yes, we all understand that the MB doesn't need a full time nanny and is trying to save money.  The correct thing to do in that situation is to TELL the nanny that their needs are changing and that they can only guarantee X number of hours and give the nanny plenty of notice as to which hours they won't need her.  They can even offer to fill those empty hours with friends who need child care.  But just deciding that they can completely change the nature of the job with no discussion is unacceptable.

As a nanny, my job is exactly what it says in the contract: "Provide excellent care to Larla along with XYZ other duties", not "provide care to whatever children show up and do whatever tasks are asked of me."  A decent nanny can get guaranteed hours pretty easily, so most jobs will be a stable amount of pay for consistent duties or a stable amount of pay for no work that day if they decide they don't need care.  What this MB wants is for nanny to reserve her time for MB (because she considers that she has dibs), but doesn't want to pay the nanny unless she actually needs her.  If she were to discuss with the nanny and come up with this together, then I could see it working (although there is a high risk that the nanny will burn out from having completely different jobs every few days), but to decide that she owns the nanny during those hours and can therefore reassign her without discussion is completely inappropriate.

It is the exact same thing as a family deciding that because they no longer need as much care that their nanny must now clean the bathrooms.  A good nanny with her choice of jobs is going to move on quickly.[/quote]

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