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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd. 
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present. 
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? [b]It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent.[/b] OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "[b]well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"[/b] 
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. [b]Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... [/b]But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.

You are precisely the kind of parent no nanny wants to work for. Your generalized contempt for all nannies is all over your post. If this is what you think of all nannies, you really ought to consider other childcare solutions. Its not healthy to cycle through caregivers like a pair of socks, which I'm sure is exactly what you're doing.
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NP here and you are really off your meds, immediate PP. The poster you're bullying had not expressed any contempt for nannies and your suggestion that they cycle through caregivers is both odd and presumptive.

So, you have a personal issue with working with parents who work at home. Fine. But own it as your issue and stop with trying to make it a legit issue.

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Her post was dripping with contemptuous generalizations. You don't understand what contempt or bullying are, clearly. And I said nothing about work at home parents. I really don't care. I commented on that particular poster's attitude toward nannies in general, and stated that if that is how she views us as a whole, she'd be better off going with another option. Do people who hate driving buy sports cars? Do people who fear water buy boats? She doesn't like nannies or at least she thinks very little of us, so why oh why do you employ one? She likely is cycling through caregivers, and that truly isn't healthy for her kid. [/quote]

Agree that the nanny poster here is off-base, and being a bully.  Every time an employer imposes some sort of expectation upon her nanny, you jump online and accuse her of being the kind of MB nannies hate working for, and someone who must cycle through nannies at the expense of her child.  There is no reason to conclude that she has problems with her own nanny simply because she has a problem with you.

There is nothing contemptuous about the MBs post and no reason to think she lacks respect for nannies in general.  What she does appear to lack respect for are nannies who have a problem understanding that their job is, in fact, a job.  Jobs come with bosses.  Bosses mean that there will be some unwelcome oversight, and the expectation that the employee will be fully engaged with her work during hours in which she is being paid, and the expectation that she will keep personal phone calls and personal texts to a strict minimum.  Most of us do.[/quote]

Right. Her post wasn't contemptuous, but I'm being a bully.  :roll:  Saying something you don't like does not equate to bullying, honey bun. You all are so full of yourselves you can't see past your own ass. I'm surprised you can lift your arms to pat each other on the back. (Hint: now I'm being a bully) [/quote]

No, Sweet Cheeks.  [b]Telling a mother that she is abusing her child because she doesn't work hard enough to make life easy for her nanny is bullying.  And manipulative. [/b] Your words above aren't really those of a bully, they just demonstrate your classlessness and immaturity.  [/quote]

You're confusing your posters. I never said any of that. Are you under the there is only one nanny on this thread? I have only said the things in this exchange, which were not bullying statements. And as for classlessness and immaturity, it takes one to know one, Sugar Bear   :wink:[/quote]

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