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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I nanny for one very smart, sweet 5 year old little boy who throws violent tantrums. I've never dealt with such fits in a child over the age of 3, so this is new territory for me. He is quite self-conscious and generally keeps his major acting out to the privacy of his home, but yesterday he had a total melt down right at his school when I went to pick him up. He was upset that another child wouldn't share his toy.

I had never been in this situation before where a child is too big for me to easily handle during a tantrum. At home I just leave him be to calm down, but this time he kept darting off and would run toward the street, so I needed to grab onto him repeatedly. I utilized all of my patience and attempted to give him a time-out, just let him cool down on the grass for a few minutes, though after 15 minutes of this he was still screaming and enraged. I decided maybe I was being too lenient, as we were on a schedule and I didn't want his fit to dictate the whole day, so I held on to his arm and attempted to have him walk to the car with me. He pulled out all the stops - went limp like a noodle, pulled and thrashed in the opposite direction, punched and kicked me.. and he's not that little for his age. Finally I just picked him up, propped him superman-style against my hip (where his shoes had a hard time kicking me) and made it out of there.

He was fine after spending some time in his room and we had a good rest of the day, though later on I noticed a small bruise ringed around the wrist I had been holding onto. I was freaked out and told his mother right away, as well as having a talk with him about how it happened, and he said it didn't hurt at all. His mom seemed unconcerned with the bruise but I've never experienced this before. Am I overreacting? I keep going over the struggle at his school in my mind, thinking of how I could have handled it better, but I see no other options. How do you handle this sort of situation??
(And my first response to acting out is always communication, trying to work things out and foster understanding. Once he's mad about something there's no getting through to him, period.)[/quote]

Yes but he doesn't sound like a sweet five year old. He sounds like a holy terror in need of discipline. He is out of control and he needs to have his parents get him in line.[/quote]

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