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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a nanny, but I think you're being a jerk here.  YOU offered to do all these things for free, sending a clear message that you are uncomfortable with compensation/tit-for-tat.  The parents probably wracked their brain trying to come up with a gift you would accept, settled on this thinking that since it was related to kids and you supposedly did all of this out of love for their kids that it would be a fitting gift, and you snapped at her.

Figure out what you want.  If you want to be like family and do all this out of the goodness of your heart, then do it, but don't be passive aggressive and rude because they didn't guess the right way to thank you.  If what you really want is to be paid like a normal employee, then don't offer to work for free.[/quote]

OP here.
Like another poster said, I made myself a doormat, that's for sure and my husband says I should change. He's right!

Anyways, I NEVER offered to carry any of the babies I'm in charge of with a scarf. Never ever. She asked me if I would want to do it, I said no. And there she goes asking me AGAIN !
And this time - for the first time - I get enough courage to say NO and being a little sharp about it because it really got on my nerves that they want to appear generous and give me something that would actually be for their own kid.
I don't see why they would "wreck their brain trying to come up with a gift", I'm not a complicated person and she never asked my husband for gift ideas if she needed any.

[b]Now besides that, they are easy and nice to work with, that's why I agreed to take care of their second child.[/b]
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This is the reason people are saying you are over reacting and being the jerk.  Ok, so you don't like the gift they picked out or don't really consider it a gift since it's to benefit their child.  You went on and on in your first post about how they have been like family etc.  If that's really true then you need to cut them some slack considering they just had a baby and they've never been like this in the past.  It's one thing to complain a little when you don't like a gift but the way you are going on and on is not a normal reaction to someone you have considered is like family.  If you don't want a relationship with them anymore then don't have one and tell them you can't watch the new baby but otherwise get over the fact that you didn't get a gift you like.  You come across as bitter that you weren't compensated well enough to watch the older child but yet you keep saying you didn't expect to be paid.  Which is it?[/quote]

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