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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
Etiquette has nothing to do with it. The nanny isn't a guest. She's an employee and being provided with meals at a job is a negotiated perk.

Maybe its not necessarily an etiquette issue, but it is kind of low class to have someone in your home and not have drinks/snacks available for them. A nanny job is not a typical work place, so lets end that farce now (Im going to assume you're bright enough to recognize that if you're being honest) She is an employee, but she works in your home. I don't think full meals are necessary, but giving her access to your fruit, bottled water, lunch meat, etc. is no great difficulty and it IS polite.[/quote]

I'm the poster you are quoting and I agree with you on this, except your low class nasty comment. It is kind and polite to have snacks on hand since a nanny can't exactly leave when she wants to buy something and has no access to sad vending machine cup a soup options many of us in other settings have access to. But thinking employers should provide meals and expecting to be able to freely request items from a family's shopping list is, to me, a perk, something to be negotiated if it's important to a nanny candidate, but not at all standard.

Fine for you and others to disagree, but for anyone to suggest this position is somehow some egregious violation of etiquette is, simply, wrong.[/quote]

I agree with this and don't get how this is an etiquette question either after a point. As even Miss Manners says in her post, offering basic snacks would be nice. I don't necessarily think its an issue of politeness (on par with offering a houseguest something to drink). It's an issue of the nanny not being able to run out for a drink/snack/toiletry item if she needs to. Anything beyond that is simply not a standard nanny perk. If a nanny asked me while interviewing if I would be providing her lunch and having her add things to our grocery list, I might consider it, taking that into account on her total package. If a nanny I had hired started adding things to my grocery list, I would be really put off as it is not a standard live-out nanny arrangement at all. [/quote]

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