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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.He often comes to my room in the middle of the night if he wets the bed and needs the sheets changed because his parents usually throw a fit about it. I just tell him its fine and that accidents happen and then I change the sheets and wash the soiled set. Last night he didn't wet the bed, he just wanted to come up stairs (still hasn't said why he came up to my room).

I talked to him this morning during breakfast about privacy and that from now on I do expect a knock and he has to wait for a response to come in. Not sure if this will work because he is the type to knock on the bathroom door and say "can i come in" no. "why, what are you doing?" using the toilet. when I asked him what he saw he said "nothing"... so Idk if he is even telling the truth.

MB and DB left very early this morning so hopefully I will be able to talk to one of them about it this evening. I'm just scared they will be really upset. Other MBs/DBs: is this a firing offense? 
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OP, you are encouraging his bad manners by telling him to just come into your room like that. You especially don't want to do that if you have overnight guests like you did this time. You really need to put a limit on him coming to your room, and having him learn to go to you to avoid having parents "throw a fit". It teaches him that he can just go to someone else instead of his parents when it is something he should be going to them about. I understand it is not the best thing for them to "throw a fit", but they all need to learn to deal with it with each other, not involving you.

You also mention "he often comes to my room"... I would find this as something that needs further looking into. He is wetting his bed a lot for a 4 yr old if he is often coming to you. Maybe this is why the parents get frustrated? I work with a special needs boy that is 4 and he doesn't wet the bed. Again, if this is happening that often, something needs to be discussed about why it is happening, what you can do to help prevent it, and then get the child comfortable with going to the parents INSTEAD of to you if it does happen. I know many of my charges would love to come to me instead for things instead of their parents, but if I am not the one in charge of them at that time, they know they go to them. They know I might be easier on them if I am still awake compared to waking their parents, but easier on them doesn't mean better for them. [/quote]

I appreciate your concern PP! I am working with him on not wetting the bed as much (he used to do it every night... about 6 months ago).

I usually have an open door policy with him in regard to my room. For example, the other day he came in from swim class with his dad and came up to my room and I was asleep. He came and laid on my bed next to me and fell asleep. I noticed him about an hr later when I got up to get ready to go out  that night. Other times in my "off" hours he will come up to my room and watch a movie with me on my laptop or just sit with me and read a book. I guess it is good that he feels comfortable with me, but I do know that he needs to be better about respecting boundaries.

Also, as to the overnight guests issue, normally I leave for the night if I am going to be with friends and go to either my BF's place or wherever, so that him barging in isn't really a concern. This was really only the second time I had used my overnight guest privilege. [/quote]

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