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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]17:09 needs professional treatment. Her paranoia is getting worse.[/quote]

Funny, but I was one of the MBs to be declared the "paranoid poster" on another thread.  This particular nanny poster needs to recognize that MANY of us disagree with her on many different issues and that does not make us paranoid.  Perhaps [i]she[/i] should consider getting psychological help with her projection problem.

In this case, I would not be opposed to a once a week playdate with the nanny's child, for a couple of hours, as long as the aunt is there too.  I agree that it could be a slippery slope and I would not look favorably upon the nanny bringing her child to work as a backup plan when the aunt is unavailable, but the parents will need to be strong enough to set limits (e.g. once a week for playdates) and say "no" to becoming the backup care plan if the need arises.

By 11 months, my daughter had started to enjoy playdates.  Yes, it was all parallel play and no, she did not form emotional connections with the other kids.  However, she clearly became excited about being with other kids (and especially their toys) at that age.  By fifteen months or so, she would wave "hi" and get visibly excited whenever we passed the home of one child with whom she has frequent playdates.  By eighteen months, she had started to mimic other kids, so playdates provided a good opportunity for her to learn new skills.

Children don't play interactively or form friendships until later, but even parallel play has its benefits.  Do I think these benefits outweigh the benefits of a one to one adult-child ratio at this age?  Not for a minute.  Nor do I think playdates are developmentally critical before at least the age of 2.  But in small doses, there is value there.      [/quote]

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