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[quote=Anonymous]15:26 - LOL, you are so right, and my boyfriend has told me this. I remember when I first started I came home and was upset because she had told her mom at some point she didn't want me to come over ever again or something like that and I figured it meant I was a bad nanny. And he said "See what you're doing right now? She can smell this on you. It's just going to get worse if you keep letting her bother you."

I don't want my own anxiety issues to rub off on her. I know that my reactions are not the ONLY reason that she's gets in that mood or pushes my buttons, but I don't think a reaction of being hurt helps at all. I'd like to think that I've gotten really good at faking a lack of emotion/concern when she starts insulting me, but I'm going to try to be more mindful of it. You are right that if it's gotten worse than it's likely something I'm doing. I have been wondering for a while if she doesn't realize that I'm the one in charge, and if she thinks that she can hurt me with just a few words then it may have very easily given the wrong frame for the relationship.

I have a 5 day weekend which I think I really needed, but I'm going to go in on Tuesday and try to be all proactive with not giving ANY attention for the bad stuff. I'm confident that I give her lots of positive praise and she responds well to that, but since the nasty stuff is still happening I think I'm giving her too much power. Thanks for the advice![/quote]

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