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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]There's tons of research about how critical it is for very young children (especially 0-3) to maintain safe and secure bonds with their primary caregivers. We don't like to talk about it much because we love the work we do. Parents here often get into spastic attacks about it and immediately get super defensive. [/quote]

Do you think she has a lack of attachment to me? Or are you saying it's because she's had so many nannies already?

And, about 35 on average. [/quote]

It's not a personal thing OP. When a caregiver is introduced into a child's life they very naturally trust them to fulfill their needs and form bonds. Each time a caregiver leaves and the bond is broken, it makes it more difficult for the child to form natural bonds and to trust caregivers. If this little girl has had the carousel of caregivers that you describe, and additionally is feeling unsure about her place in her own family at the addition of the baby, she is certainly apt to have some attachment issues. I think you're on the right track by trying to help her relationship with her baby brother. She needs to feel secure about her place in the family and not see him as a threat. Let her help you with him, tell her what a wonderful big sister she is, praise her when she acts kindly toward him, and give her special "big girl" attention when he is sleeping. She also needs to see that she will not get the attention she desires by acting out, only through positive behavior. [/quote]

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