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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also understand your reaction to hovering but think you did handle this wrong and your approach isn't aligned with teaching good behavior.

Too many people take "let them work it out themselves" and "they need to figure out how to manage conflict" the wrong way. At this age, you are actually just enabling situations that teach them how to work things out the wrong way.

This doesn't mean that the adult is interacting every second. The adult is observing and [b]when the kids are not handling it the right way [/b]they intervene to redirect and use it as a teaching moment and then step back again. If the adult doesn't do this then bad behavior actually ends up being reinforced. Kids who end up being the bullies or have social problems in school are not bad kids. They simply learned that social or physical aggression works, gets them what they want, and has no consequences.

I think you need to rethink the let them figure it out themselves approach. I also think the other mother was wrong to focus on the sharing aspect only. A bigger rule, IMO, is learning to respect other people's space and property. Its fine to ask for something but you need to listen to the answer. The other person can say no and if they say no even though you may really want it, you must politely accept this. Share is request, not a command. The other mother was correct though that you should not have been just sitting there not doing anything. [/quote]

How exactly was OP's charge not handling things the right way?[/quote]

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