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[quote=Anonymous]oh boy- haven't even read the responses but was eager to respond.  my last au pair-- this -- she joined multiple online dating sites, and was seriously dating a local guy 2 months after arriving in the US.  then they were engaged by 6 months from her arrival.  she actually wanted to quit and get married to get her greencard- but then she changed her mind and we all decided she would stay with us for the remainder of the year.  then they broke up- then she wanted to extend for a year with us- but we had already matched with somebody else...anyway, i'm not entirely certain, but i believe she did have at least one boyfriend at the end of our year.  recently saw her- and she is back with the original guy.  yes her friends all have local bfs too.

i spoke to my LC about it, and to her.  i just explained how i worried about her safety- but that her time off is hers- and she can do as she pleases with her time off.  but we had to create a new rule- no boys, no exceptions.  (he wanted to spend the night one night, and subsequently, he met her at the playground while she was with our kids).  SO especially while you are working- NO BOYS.

anyway, also the whole greencard/quitting thing was extremely stressful- one minute she was quitting, the next she was staying-- -her mind was elsewhere....not focused on her job at all.  also i was always not sure of her true intentions of coming to the US....

i have to add that the au pair before her also met someone local and IS married and supposedly does have her greencard now.....[/quote]

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