Anonymous
03/02/2013 13:37
Subject: Dating and boyfriends locally?
I've had 5 German Au pairs and none have ever dated. Well, One of them one night had a boy over to watch tv. He was an intern and clearly wanted "more". Never saw him again after that night - clearly he struck out haha.
Anonymous
03/02/2013 13:31
Subject: Dating and boyfriends locally?
That's why they come here.
Even if it's not, they don't want to be lonely & want male attention. You can't blame them. Many are attracted to american men...just like many americans find italian or irish men sexy, etc
MYOB
Even if it's not, they don't want to be lonely & want male attention. You can't blame them. Many are attracted to american men...just like many americans find italian or irish men sexy, etc
MYOB
Anonymous
03/02/2013 07:44
Subject: Dating and boyfriends locally?
Anonymous wrote:Good luck. Young ladies are young ladies. Didn't they come here primarily to experience the American life-style? Anyhow, at the very least, your experience with the young women gives you a glimpse of what lies ahead, with your own children. You may want to reconsider your parenting style.
super- why don't you tell me what to do then. TIA!
Anonymous
02/25/2013 22:40
Subject: Dating and boyfriends locally?
Good luck. Young ladies are young ladies. Didn't they come here primarily to experience the American life-style? Anyhow, at the very least, your experience with the young women gives you a glimpse of what lies ahead, with your own children. You may want to reconsider your parenting style.
Anonymous
02/25/2013 22:19
Subject: Re:Dating and boyfriends locally?
Anonymous wrote:oh boy- haven't even read the responses but was eager to respond. my last au pair-- this -- she joined multiple online dating sites, and was seriously dating a local guy 2 months after arriving in the US. then they were engaged by 6 months from her arrival. she actually wanted to quit and get married to get her greencard- but then she changed her mind and we all decided she would stay with us for the remainder of the year. then they broke up- then she wanted to extend for a year with us- but we had already matched with somebody else...anyway, i'm not entirely certain, but i believe she did have at least one boyfriend at the end of our year. recently saw her- and she is back with the original guy. yes her friends all have local bfs too.
i spoke to my LC about it, and to her. i just explained how i worried about her safety- but that her time off is hers- and she can do as she pleases with her time off. but we had to create a new rule- no boys, no exceptions. (he wanted to spend the night one night, and subsequently, he met her at the playground while she was with our kids). SO especially while you are working- NO BOYS.
anyway, also the whole greencard/quitting thing was extremely stressful- one minute she was quitting, the next she was staying-- -her mind was elsewhere....not focused on her job at all. also i was always not sure of her true intentions of coming to the US....
i have to add that the au pair before her also met someone local and IS married and supposedly does have her greencard now.....
me again- and by no boys, no exceptions - this was regarding during work hours, and even on her time off she was not allowed to have boys over to our house. just wanted to clarify.
Anonymous
02/25/2013 22:15
Subject: Re:Dating and boyfriends locally?
oh boy- haven't even read the responses but was eager to respond. my last au pair-- this -- she joined multiple online dating sites, and was seriously dating a local guy 2 months after arriving in the US. then they were engaged by 6 months from her arrival. she actually wanted to quit and get married to get her greencard- but then she changed her mind and we all decided she would stay with us for the remainder of the year. then they broke up- then she wanted to extend for a year with us- but we had already matched with somebody else...anyway, i'm not entirely certain, but i believe she did have at least one boyfriend at the end of our year. recently saw her- and she is back with the original guy. yes her friends all have local bfs too.
i spoke to my LC about it, and to her. i just explained how i worried about her safety- but that her time off is hers- and she can do as she pleases with her time off. but we had to create a new rule- no boys, no exceptions. (he wanted to spend the night one night, and subsequently, he met her at the playground while she was with our kids). SO especially while you are working- NO BOYS.
anyway, also the whole greencard/quitting thing was extremely stressful- one minute she was quitting, the next she was staying-- -her mind was elsewhere....not focused on her job at all. also i was always not sure of her true intentions of coming to the US....
i have to add that the au pair before her also met someone local and IS married and supposedly does have her greencard now.....
i spoke to my LC about it, and to her. i just explained how i worried about her safety- but that her time off is hers- and she can do as she pleases with her time off. but we had to create a new rule- no boys, no exceptions. (he wanted to spend the night one night, and subsequently, he met her at the playground while she was with our kids). SO especially while you are working- NO BOYS.
anyway, also the whole greencard/quitting thing was extremely stressful- one minute she was quitting, the next she was staying-- -her mind was elsewhere....not focused on her job at all. also i was always not sure of her true intentions of coming to the US....
i have to add that the au pair before her also met someone local and IS married and supposedly does have her greencard now.....