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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are anal and rude. The nanny sounds like she was  trying to help and is extra affectionate with the kids. She buys gifts because she loves them. Not many ppl would spend money on some else's kids. She is has prob never worked for asshole parents before who don't appreciate her attempt at helping and caring. So fire her and let her a nice family or
 
1.Tell the nanny to not touch anything in your house, that you have it setup for a certain reason. 
2.tell her to never buy the children anything ever. That she can tell you if she thinks they will like something and if you find it appropriate you will get it. 
3. Tell your daughter that the child you brought the bike from made a mistake is very sad and wants it back. And you will look into buying a new nice bike when she is older. No one is a bad guy and your the good guy. You don't have to make it about blame, you can use this as a moment to teach empathy.

Just so you know there are plenty of 3yr olds who ride bikes. I've even seem some how ride without training wheels. You are paranoid and too much of a control freak to have a nanny. [/quote]

Wow, your comment seems a bit harsh but I will not let it affect my feelings because you don't know me and you made a generalization based on one post.

As I have said right along, I don't believe I micromanage my nanny. Yes, a lot of things that she does bug me. I don't tell her many of them because I feel they are a product of my own anal issues, and not something she should have to deal with. I have made only a few specific requests - take my dd1 to certain play dates (she has taken her to two out of six), tell me what foods you give the baby (I think she does this, but really, I have no way of checking), please help the kids pick up their mess at the end of the day (she does this about 50% of the time), and please don't do housework (she does it anyway).

I have also spoken to her three times when I have been upset about something during the last nine months she has worked here. Once when she showed up fifteen minutes late for work without calling and with another child in tow (it was the not calling to inform me first that bothered me, not that she was late or had the other child with her, and I made sure she understood that), once when she cleaned out the fridge and threw away food that was still good (this was not a huge deal, just a little frustrating, and I simply thanked her for doing such a nice thing, told her that some of the food hadn't needed to be thrown out, that we clearly had different opinions about food storage, and asked her not to clean out the fridge again.)

That's it. Four requests, three discussions, in nine months. I pick my battles and only asked for things or let her see my frustration about things that really bothered me. No, I am not going to let her have totally free reign with my kids, because they are MY kids, and no matter how much I trust her, there will still be house rules. This doesn't make me a control freak or rude. I try to keep them to a minimum, but if any requests/rules/regs constitute being rude, then so be it.[/quote]

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