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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

If they asked me to come along and I had to do the 45 hours, it would have been a normal thing to do. We would have had different activities with the kid, like the beach for instance :)
I know that I only get 2 weeks off per year so I don't expect more than that.

And it is a big wedding because the bride is Mexican. It's the groom's family who's quite small :)
But again, I repeat myself here, I find normal 100% not to be invited at this wedding. For my kid's brother I'm only the help and that's fine for me.

Anyways, I have received a very nice email from the Minnesota family, they have read my application, talked to my host father. They're calling me back tonight and if everything goes well I should go there :) Keeping my fingers crossed !

My host father has talked to a few rematch au pairs but they don't want to come to Philly, they want bigger cities like NYC ... I'm hoping they will find someone soon.[/quote]

Well, good luck!  I do hope the Minnesota family situation is a better fit for you, and is somewhere that you will be happy and make friends.

(For the record I still think the Mexican wedding thing is an unjustified gripe.  You basically agree that it's "normal" not to be invited to the wedding; what you think isn't "normal" is that the family didn't take you along to Mexico so that you could have a vacation while they attended a wedding.  What bothers you is not having a vacation to Mexico, not that the family isn't including you in a family event.  And you also acknowledge that the groom's family presence at the wedding WILL be small - yet you still don't seem to understand that this means you being there, when the groom doesn't know you, might be more than a little strange for him.  It's not that you are "only the help" to the older child; you are completely unknown!  Do you think it would have been appropriate for your host family to bring a really close friend of theirs to the wedding if the groom didn't know those friends? No - it would not have.  And your host family and the groom may be meeting a lot of the bride's family for the first time, trying to deal with new people, new relationships, a whole new situation.  That you seem to have absolutely no consideration of their experience here other than that it is a "fun vacation" that you weren't invited to come along for just seems very, very selfish and inconsiderate to me.  And also that you lack some basic instincts about human and family relationships and what is appropriate in certain social situations.)[/quote]

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