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You squandered your cash for an experienced nanny, only to retrain her? Brilliant. How many years did she have under her belt?[/quote]
20+.  I didn't need to retrain her. She knew there is more than one way to achieve what we wanted and recognized she knew her craft but I knew my baby.[/quote]
Maybe you knew your baby at birth, but once you're absent most of your baby's waking hours, it's the nanny who knows your baby best. Reading a log book at night, doesn't constitute "knowing" your baby, FYI.[/quote]
Crazy weekends dashing about, plus an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening (if that), doesn't allow you the relaxed time I have as a nanny, to savor every new daily development of a baby.[/quote]

This is true.  But you work for me.  You're here because I hired you to care for my child(ren) in the manner I choose and oversee.  You are a long term (hopefully) but still temporary employee, and you're replaceable.  You can call in sick, take vacation, quit, etc...  My child may or may not remember you in 5 years.  The title of "nanny" versus "mommy" in a child's mind are vastly, eternally.

My daughter told me the other day that her nanny is her best friend.  I, and the nanny, were so touched by that and I think it's wonderful.  She walks around telling everyone "This is my mommy!"   She knows the difference.  There is room for all kinds of love but there is no world in which a mother is really replaced in a kid's heart - no matter what the mother does or doesn't do.

Spend a little time working w/ kids who end up in the social services system and you'll immediately grasp the utter unseverability of the mother/child relationship.

Have your own children if you want to be a mother.  In the meantime you'll care for my children as I see fit, and as I want done - or you'll work for someone else.

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