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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a nanny and I hate this part of my job in knowing that after a year I will be forgotten by the children that I have watched for over 40 hours a week, loved and spoiled. I will not see them grow up, go through their firsts or anything else.  :(  I feel like a third parent that is ripped away from her child when I leave the family. I feel as if the children are my own children and I am getting majorly depressed as the days fly by and my time with them slips away.  I wish they had nanny visiting rights but I am thinking of asking the parents if I can still visit with them and maybe take them on vacations with me. My heart hearts and I spent the weekend in bed crying when I realized I had only a year or so left. How do others nannies deal with this feeling? I know my time is almost up with them as they are going off to school and I hate to think of joining another family and opening up my heart seems an invitation for more pain and disappointment. [/quote]
You'll have to deal with this. You are not the most important figure in that baby's life.  Important, yes, but not the most important.  That baby will grow up without knowing who you were, and that's totally normal.  You'll move on and find other jobs and other kids.  I may also suggest that you find ways to fill your life with meaningful things that aren't child-related because the way you feel about your charges crosses boundaries.  [/quote]

Op here- That is my worst fear-- being forgotten. I still think I am the most important right now because I spend about 45 hours a week with the baby. Much more then the parents. I do not want to be forgotten; I am hoping to keep a long term relationship with the child. I am trying to find new hobbies and I plan on seeing my doctor on Monday morning for depression. It hurts to get up in the morning and I go through the motions on my off hours counting down the hours until I see them again. I guess it is not normal to be this sad but I can't help it. I love my little jelly bean very much. I know I am not the mother or father but I do sometimes feel as if I am his second mom due to our bond and the amount of time we spend together.  :oops: Hopefully the meds will make me feel lighter and happier. Thanks for the good advice guys![/quote]

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