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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Some answers to the questions that were asked :

1) No, I did not know what the schedule would be. But I guess I would have agreed to it anyway, I wanted to match their needs. I wouldn't mind working so late if I knew I could have tv in my room to relax. Right now I go up to my room and don't do anything besides organizing my stuff, my bedroom is spotless for sure lol
I will get one full weekend off every month, except that I'm not getting it in September because of the week off in Mexico. And I will work above the 45 hours when the kid is off from school for about $5 the extra hour.
My hours on Saturdays are about 11am-5pm or earlier like 9am-3pm ... it's hard to plan anything, I always have to say no to the au pairs that invite me to go out ... so now they don't invite me any more and I understand why.

2) Yes, I have spoken with the family about my concerns with their child kicking me. I told them I told him to stop doing it and put him on time out. The father said his son doesn't need the time out, he needs to figure by himself if he does something wrong. And when the kid kicked me in front of his parents the dad laughed and I was puzzled ... I felt like rolling my eyes and run away from them ...

3) I was told the dad was working from home when I talked to the former au pair. By then I had already accepted the job. The au pair told me she hated the fact the dad was home.
It's ok for me, he works in his office and I do what I have to do. At first he would come and see what we do to check but now he trusts me and it's like being at the house by myself.

4) Yes I could have afforded a trip to Mexico, if the family had invited me along. If they had told me, we'd like you to come but would like you to pay your flight/hotel room, I would have asked them how much it is and seen if I could come. I didn't want a free ride but the opportunity to come along if possible.

(3) You never really did answer those of us who were curious as to whether you could afford a several thousand dollar trip to Mexico, if only the family would invite you along.  Would you really have offered to the host family that you really really want to come along to Mexico and will pay your way, no matter the cost?

4) About their lifestyle, I KNOW they are well off. She both own very successful businesses. I find myself having to justify their lifestyle but I never expected them to pay anything more than what the program is about : room, board and pocket money.

5) I understand 100% that I am not invited to the wedding. It's my little boy's big brother's wedding (my host parents are older). My host family has had au pairs for 7 years and they told me in their welcome letter that they would take their au pairs on vacation to visit family if the au pairs wanted to come but they didn't have to. That's why I was surprised when they didn't invite me. So ok this is a wedding and not a vacation but the wedding is just one day long, they're leaving for about 5 days, there was other days to be together and visit etc. I would have stayed in my room at the hotel during the wedding or whatever.

6) The host family told me I HAVE to be at the house morning and evening for the workmen to come and go. They didn't leave me a choice. Of course it only takes a few minutes each time and maybe they think they're not asking much because I won't work the full 45 hours.

(7) Yes I want to hang out with the family but after 9.30pm I'm tired, we usually get a drink and talk about the day for 15/20 min, I tell them what I cooked for dinner  and they need to be alone as a couple too so I go up to my room. 
I don't think they would be interested in watching the same things I do, there's a very small couch in the den and the 3 of us sitting there would make me completely uncomfortable.
What I like to share with them is any meal (which we do on weekends), going to the groceries, they invited me to the block party and I loved it :)
I went with the dad to run his personal errands and help him out carrying some stuff - just like a family member would do.
I didn't think about getting a tablet, I must say I am not familiar with using them but this is a good idea !

8) I feel less depressed since I have talked to the host parents. I'm still homesick but so eager to discover more about the US and right now I feel trapped because I can't go out as much as I would like.
But that will change with time :)

9) Maybe I sound cavalier in my attitude about rematch, I'm sorry if it comes out this way. I can only get the au pair visa once and that's why I want my year to be a successful one.
My host father has offered to talk to my prospective families, he wants to part ways the best way possible and since I talked to them he's been the same person he used to be : nice and talkative.
Yes he is disapointed it didn't work out but he wants to move on and find a happy girl that will stay for a year with them.
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