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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a live-in who works five days on and two days off each week. We have a completely separate apartment on our property where she stays. When we hired her she told us she’d be staying with her boyfriend on her days off. In July we were away for a week and she didn’t want to take PTO so we had her watch our dog. She had her boyfriend come to stay with her for the week and the two of them stayed in our house rather than in her apartment. He also comes to see her a lot more often than we expected and he stays over. Now that he’s familiar with our house he seems to be more comfortable coming in to speak to us or making small talk when we drive up to the house.

The guy is 32 years old, unemployed, lives with his mother and doesn’t have a car. I know it’s a live in position and we told her she could invite friends occasionally to stay with her. I think he’s hanging around more because he doesn’t have anything else to do. Can we set boundaries and say we’ve changed our minds and prefer she sees him elsewhere on her days off? He’s a nice guy but we prefer not to have him around. It’s a weird dynamic that seems to keep getting worse in that he’s around more and more. [/quote]

If she stayed in the house to take care of the dog per your request, what is the issue.  She should not have to take PTO for your vacations.  PTO is for when she is sick or her vacations.

You have every right to tell her he cannot move in.[/quote]

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