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[quote=Anonymous]I have a nanny, and I do think you did a few things wrong, from my perspective. People have different philosophies of childrearing, so perhaps this one is just not a good fit. But in my house, the adults set the schedule, not the toddlers. If I say my son should go out to the park at 10am, I expect the nanny to take him to the park at 10am. That means not asking "are you ready to go to the park?" but instead saying "okay, it's time to go to the park. Let's find your shoes!"

Also - I think you meant to say that he's allowed to watch cartoons while he finishes breakfast. Most parents (myself included) limit screens. So if a parents says that a kid is allowed to watch cartoons when he finishes breakfast, that's a few minutes. Maybe 20 minutes, max, then you need to cut off the screens. You let him sit on screens for over two hours! That's an excessively long period of time.

Finally, three year olds need naps, or at a minimum, rest or quiet time, in the afternoon. That's fairly universal. So, no, going to the park after lunch is not an option.

Toddlers and preschoolers thrive on routine and structure. It sounds like this family had a pretty typical routine for their three year old, and you didn't respect it. Flexibility can be valuable, but letting a like sit on screens for 2 hours while I'm paying is not flexibility - it's laziness.

The temp thing is a bit more of a judgement call if she's in the house. It's your first day, it's not like 64 degrees is going to kill him, and I think many work from home parents prefer that nannies handle things rather than bothering them, so I would be fine with a nanny powering through on a cold temperature and then bringing it up later "it seems like the temperature in the house was a bit cool this morning. Is that your preferred temperature? I can just bring a sweater if so." But yeah, you should have at least felt his arm and if it felt cold, gotten him a sweater. [/quote]

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