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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's called 'aupair fatigue' and it's a real thing.[b] If you don't have it as a host parent, it's because you aren't worrying about whether your aupair is happy/sad/homesick/what have you.[/b]
I recommend not following her on social media. If you are hosting someone who has just left their parents' home and hasn't lived on their own, then they still have very little concept that cellphones and car insurance doesn't just magically get paid by someone else. 
The only aupair I nearly chewed out was the one who told me that her room/board and car cost me nothing because I would be paying for them whether she lived with us or not. As if car insurance and food/utilities worked that way. 
It does take and enormous amount of household management and if you already have a long list of things you manage as a parent, it's draining with no appreciation. 
Hosting isn't perfect. We muddled through because it was the best childcare option for us for a few years. 
I'm gleefully aupair free. I do not have to worry about whether our aupair will sit on a couch during a family holiday on her phone and then sulk because her friend got a bigger Christmas bonus. I raised 5 teenagers/young adults who weren't my own over 7 years. SO happy to be done with it all. [/quote]

Thank you. That is exactly what I feel. I can't stop worrying about the AP because I care as a person. And that is exactly why hosting is not for me. I care too much. I care about our life, our assets, our feelings as well as AP's life and her feelings. However, most of the time there is conflict of interest between our life and hers and that is causing my struggle.

My AP never said that room/board cost me nothing but from her other comments about our life I know she thinks that way. I feel like I would have to cry poor in front of her to make her understand life is not easy. I on purposely not to purchase any big items to treat myself because the AP will judge my life and feel more entitled for the perks I gave to her. She sees that we have a decent life but she doesn't see the tears behind that. She doesn't feel the pain and stress when I have to work to 1am 3 days in a row.

Only 3 months left. I will continue to make a great year for the AP but I will be very happy when it is finally done. [/quote]

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