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[quote=Anonymous]Just venting:

I am tired of:

an additional person living in my house
constant wondering if AP is happy/sad/homesick... wand wanting to make sure everything is good for her
trying to make sure a foreigner is adapting well in the US in terms of culture, rules, language etc
trying to give AP a great year and experience in the US by going to additional activities that we normally don't go
balancing between an employer and a "family"
balancing between a "hard to live with" husband wanting everything perfect and the reality of life with an AP
entertaining/chatting with AP after a long day at work 
feeling bad after an unpleasant conversation (saying something was wrong etc) and trying to do something nice to cheer her up since AP is a sensitive person
a young lady laying on my couch playing her phone while the whole family is home
feeling bad for AP not including her on our weekend activities because she is alone and might feel lonely
feeling bad for ourselves including AP on our weekend activities because we just want some time for our small family after whole week of working 
worrying about a new driver driving my car 
being annoyed that AP using our assets but doesn't take care of it as much as we do
stupid little comments here and there from an immature girl
AP showing off her American life (living in MY house and driving MY car) on social media but it is really MY life from my 15 years of hard working 
AP not understanding how expensive to support a life in the US and consider herself a cheap labor while we pay EVERYTHING for her life here (car, insurance, gas, cellphone, uber when needed, all the tv show and music subscriptions, unlimited budget for grocery store, travelling with us etc)  because I want her to be able to save up for her own travels and experience. 
....

to be clear, our AP is a sweet but immature girl and she is very good with my boys. For that, we love and appreciate her. I guess we just underestimated how much an additional person living in our house is irritating before we decided to join the program. We wanted our boys have a big sister and role model that they feel close to. The AP definitely did that but also comes with all other little things that we don't really like.  At the end of the day, I am still glad I tried this program and I am happy to make a special year for our AP. I committed one year and I will complete it with my whole heart. However, I can't do this more than a year as this is draining me so much. With our stressful jobs, I think a live-out nanny is better for us.

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