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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have just started interviewing au pairs (over email), and one seems nice, but I feel like setting up way too many boundaries at this very early stage.  For instance, she replied to an email and within it stated that she is happy to help out extra, as long as we don't go over hours and that we give her notice.   I never asked her to help out extra--we aren't even there yet! We are a rule following family so I am just put off by this.  Any thoughts?[/quote]

It sounds to me like she’s heard from other APs about their experience.  If she understands that there are rules that shouldn’t be broken (45 hours) and is clear that she is responsible for helping as part of the family, what is wrong with that?[/quote]

Because we clearly stayed in our profile that we adhere to the rules.  It’s a fair thing to be concerned about as an AP but seems a bit presumptuous to state it before I even invited her for an interview [/quote]

APs that get info from other AP groups get bad info about “how to squeeze the most of out your host family” advice and “what to lie about to blame the family” when you go into rematch. Another red flag line of questions we’ve seen passed around: Am I allowed to eat anything in the house? Will I get a credit card to buy food or will you buy all the food?

We recently interviewed and we told the candidate that she would have a car to use for both driving kids and her personal use---and that we split the gas with the au pair 50/50. She says, what if the au pair doesn't drive as much for personal use? Ugh. That's the rule. Deal with it.  I swiped left.

Why in the world would you think anyone would hand you a credit card on arrival unless you think Americans are all rich?[/quote][/quote]

If the AuPair isn't driving much and the kids have lots of activities and need lots of rides, she should not have to split the gas 50/50.  That is a horrible rule.  She can pay for her gas but that's not right to say she should split it if she's not primarily driving for herself.[/quote]

In my area you need a car to go anywhere. To the gym, other aps homes, malls, metro, parks, anywhere where any AP with an interest in absorbing the community. So if AP is not driving that much then they are basically home all of the time .  Not good for anyone involved [/quote]

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