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[quote=Anonymous]I am currently a Nanny to an adorable + bright 2 1/2 yr old little girl.
Before her, I was her seven yr old big brother’s Nanny so I have been with them about 6 1/2 yrs total.

I take my charge to the neighborhood park every day so it is only natural that I will meet other Nannies there as well as Parents & Grandparents.

Well I have a friend named “Rosalie.”
She cares for three young kids under three.
I have known her for about two yrs thus far.

I am an older Nanny (mid-40’s) while Rosalie is in her late-20’s.
I also acknowledge that Rosalie may be a less attentive Nanny than I am.
She spends A LOT of time on her phone.
I for the record do not.

She is the main Nanny that I socialize with at the park plus our charges get along great.
I do not think she is as good a Nanny as me - I attribute the heavy phone use due to her age/immaturity.
She is NEVER left alone with my charge.
Ever.

I am a very empathetic person and I do not judge.
While I think she spends too much time on her phone -
I also acknowledge that is her business.

My Mom Boss saw her at the park one day last week when I was off and she came over and introduced herself + the kids.
Afterward, my MB noticed she was on her phone a lot and when she saw me this week, she told me we needed to talk and I immediately tried to think of anything I may have done wrong.
I couldn’t think of a thing.

She told me she met Rosalie at the park, then asked me her age.
When I told her she asked me, “What could a ______ (my age) have in common with a _____ (her age.)?”
I told her that I have friends of ALL ages which is true.
Then she told me that day at the park, she noticed that Rosalie was distracted by her phone a tad.
I responded that I agreed.
That I had told Rosalie when we initially met that she seemed too distracted and that was that.

I wasn’t going to keep reminding her because that is entirely on HER.
Since she doesn’t watch my charge or is ever alone with her, I really just MYOB.
She then asked me if I could possibly find other Nanny friends.
Closer to my age, with less kids in her care.
Preferably no more than two.
She doesn’t think it is wise for my daughter to be around “all those kids,” because she doesn’t want her “lost in the shuffle.”

:roll: 
She didn’t directly forbid me to communicate with Rosalie during my shift -
But it is perfectly clear that is what she wants me to do.

It will be awkward to randomly tell her I cannot speak to her while on duty while also telling my charge not to play with her charges.

She seems to think (after 6.5 yrs!!) that if I choose to be friends w/Rosalie than I am likely just like her.
But that is not true.
I have friends who do things that I do not agree with, but I am the least judgmental friend.

That is what sometimes sets me apart from others.
I can get along with anyone as long as I believe That fundamentally they are decent people.
I know I have my own, personal shortcomings myself.

This is already too long, sorry.  :?

My question is:
Does my MB have the right to tell me that I can no longer socialize with another person while on duty.
We only talk at the park btw.

Or as my boss, is she well within her rights?

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