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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nanny here and I simply don’t.  I have been a nanny for ten years and am on my third family.  I don’t have conflicts because I step back the moment a parent appears and have completely stopped giving advice.  I smile all the time.

For example, I do insist on my charge saying please and thank you when I am with my charge without the parents but never say a word when the parents are present.

Never give advice that differs from the mother’s opinion - EVER.

Avoid conflicts with parents, Nannies.  You will never win.  [/quote]

Agree.

I try to be agreeable and supportive, as I tend to work with families who’ve never had a nanny. If they ask for my opinion I will give it in a way that is helpful so that if they don’t take it no hard feelings. I let parents think they know best bc what’s the point in fighting and it’s their child. [/quote]

Same.  So much of a mother’s self-worth is involved in being right about their child.  Don’t even point out something that could make the child happier or healthier.  Unless it is a true danger to the life of the child, it simply isn’t worth it.

And like a daycare/preschool teacher, only say positive things that the parents want to hear about your charge.  [/quote]

All of this!  You smile and shrug a lot.  A nanny will never win any confrontation with a mother.  Not worth it.  Posters keep reminding us that we are just temporary employees and we are.  Do and say a bunch of crap to make the mother look good and you are golden for a few years.  How the child turns out is not a nanny’s responsibility.

It’s a hard lesson to learn when you love your charges.  But just do as the mother wants and never question her. [/quote]

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