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[quote=Anonymous]So I know we are on the extreme end of things, but in our 11 years of hosting, we allowed our APs and bps to have their commited, long term, monogamous SOs stay with them with very clear rules: 1) we hear nothing that makes anyone uncomfortable and 2) we see nothing that makes anyone uncomfortable. I too had tweens and teens while this happened. Everyone was fine with it and it wasn’t a big deal. No one asked questions. At the slightest violation of my rules, it would have been over, but no one ever violated them. I should say that at 19, when I was in college, I shared a bedroom w my serious, committed boyfriend at my parents’ house when we visited, with same (then unspoken) rules so I don’t see this as a problem. It depends on your family values and your comfort with your ap. If you trust her and like her and feel she will respect your family by not making anyone uncomfortable and if this doesn’t violate your sense of propriety, then I see no reason not to allow a shared room. But if it does violate your sense of propriety or if you don’t trust her not to be stupid and make you all feel yucky from having to see or hear anything you don’t want To see or hear, it’s fine to insist on couch or hotel.  [/quote]

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