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[quote=Anonymous]MB here.  To a significant extent try to just let it go.  Be confident in your parenting.  Be comfortable in knowing that this is your child, your home, your rules and she is your employee.

1 or 3 or 5 years from now the nanny will move on to another family.  You're the Mom - no matter how amazing a nanny is (or anyone else) no one else is the mother of your child.

Do not let the nanny's opinions "hurt your feelings".  It doesn't serve any useful purpose.

If necessary, you can say (in response to an expression you interpret as judging you) "Jane, I see your expression changed when I said that, and it makes me feel that you think I'm making a mistake.  Should we discuss this?"  Then maybe she'll speak her mind and you can decide whether or not you think she has a point and respond accordingly.  Or maybe she'll just become more circumspect and not betray her emotions that way anymore.

But remember that you're a boss, not a friend.  Try to get hurt feelings out of it.  (I know this is easier said than done, I've totally BTDT, but it really is the truth that this is a job for the nanny - not a friendship, or family.  It becomes easier to manage the relationship respectfully and professionally when you keep a more formal mindset.)

Good luck.[/quote]

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