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[quote=Anonymous]MBs entire family is at NFs house but I was scheduled to work Monday and Tuesday because both bosses are also working.  Totally fine.  I’m happy to have 3 days off.  MB’s entire family (father, mother, grandmother, brother, sisters and two spouses) are staying in the house.  That’s 9 adults and two children.  MB instructed me to “relax and take a back seat” and to only intervene if her family wants help.  My NKs are autistic 2.5-year-old twins.  They are High needs children that require constant supervision.  They are unpredictable and can have epic meltdowns and become difficult to control.  I understand why MB wants me here just Incase her family needs assistance.

Unfortunately her family does not agree. They clearly do not want me here and make me feel so unwelcome and as if I’m intruding on family time.  Grandma and Great Grandma complain over and over that they can handle the boys on their own.  Yet I can see they are struggling with behaviors and totally throwing the boys off their schedule which is chasing issues.  So I’m trying to figure out when I shouldn’t and shouldn’t intervene.  Yesterday Grandma snapped at me for trying to calm one of the twins and apparently complained to MB who told me this morning to focus on different tasks (child related) and only intervene if asked.   Fine.

Well, this morning 6 out of 8 family members decided they wanted to walk a few blocks down and take the boys to the park. I am told they are going.  I offer to go with, and Grandma snaps back I should “focus on my chores”.  I’m annoyed but glad I’ll get a few moments of peace.

25 minutes later I get a text from MB saying that one twin is in the neighbors back yard.  The neighbor contacted her because he was playing on there swingset.  She is angry and tells me to go get him.  I dish out of the house toward this house and see half
Of the family clearly looking for my NK.  6 adults and they lose a child.  I tell them Mb contacted me and he is in a neighbors yard.  I get my NK, all while MBs family is blaming one another for losing him and no one seems to have a straight story of how they lost him.  Six adults are with him and when MB gets Home who does she blame?

“When you are here you are in charge.  You know how difficult the boys are to take out.  What if something happened?  What if they got into the road?  You know them best and you are responsible.”

Livid.

Do not blame this on me.

You took away my agency and autonomy and literally told me to take a backseat.  I am not responsible for babysitting your family.  I’m not in a situation to tell them what to do.  That’s on you.[/quote]

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