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[quote=Anonymous]We are letting go DD's nanny who has been with us since the beginning of the year for performance issues.  She's actually a nice person who cares for DD a lot, but has competence issues and is not a good personality fit.  We are planning on giving her two weeks' pay as severance in lieu of notice.  I would have liked to have given her some notice and some severance so that it wasn't so abrupt and she'd have time to say goodbye to DD, but 1) I don't want her talking about this with the other nannies in our apt building and 2) she is very emotional and prone to crying, which I do not want her to do around me or DD.

My questions:
1. Should I give her reasons for termination and if so, what?  I think since we have a good relationship, it would be fair to her to tell her the reasons in a kind way.  If I say "communication issues" and "not a good fit," I think she will understand.  DH is saying no to this and instead, give her an "objective" reason that won't make her feel bad, such as we want to hire someone who speaks our native language, but I can't think of one that wouldn't be a lie.  Which is better, honesty or saving hurt feelings?

2. I plan to give her a positive reference, but if someone asks me a question that touches on the issues we had, I feel like the right thing to do is be honest, but present in as positive light as possible.  DH is telling me not to say anything remotely negative, just do and say what it takes to help her find a new job.  Again, is honesty the better policy or not?

3. Is there anything else I can do to soften the blow?  It would be nice if we could give her a present from DD, but she is only 17 mo. old so too young to make anything.  Like when she paints or draws, they're just scribbles.  What kind of gift would be appropriate to show our appreciation of her?[/quote]

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