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[quote=Anonymous] Read that it sounds as if everyone is viewing this differently and you need to have a conversation where you are all very clear and explicit about what you want and figure out how to get on the same page.

When I was a live-in, I would have no problem being "on duty" while the parents went out for a few hours after the kids were in bed if it was a night when I planned to be home anyway. If that is fine with you, but you want to be compensated for it somehow  then you need to explain it to them. If you don't want to be in charge of the children outside of your preplanned hours, then you need to explain that. If the problem is that the kids don't reliably stay in bed, then you need to have a conversation about that. Basically, you have said nothing that indicates that they are actually "judging" how you use your free time, Other than the fact that they tend to assume that you will mostly be home in the evenings during the week, which you yourself admitted is the case. The question here is whether you are comfortable taking on extra hours during the evenings when you are already home. You need to figure out under what circumstances you are willing to do that then present them with  those circumstances, and be prepared to have a conversation that may include altering your original contract. I will say that it sounds to me as if they are operating under the assumption that this is part and parcel of having a live in nanny, and it may have been part of why they chose a live-in to begin with. If that is the case, you should probably  Think carefully about how much you want to retain this job, because the more you limit their ability to use you during the week, the more likely it is that they will decide that they might prefer either a more flexible live in nanny or a live out nanny who has the same level of flexibility you are willing to offer. [/quote]

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