Reply to Boy colors and girl colors

Forum Index » General Discussion

Reply to "Boy colors and girl colors"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I look after a 3yo girl and a 1yo boy. The parents keep enforcing and encouraging gender division. When I put a 'live strong' type of band on the boy's arm the dad was like 'oh isn't that a bit girly'. The girl attends ballet class and there's a boy attending - they laugh and wonder how strange it is and say they will never do that to their son. The girl was telling the mother and me about another boy at daycare who kept snatching the doll she was playing with and the mother told the girl to tell him that boys don't play with dolls, only girls do. The mother told her to laugh at the girl because she still has a pacifier like a baby. When the mother takes out cups and plates she often says 'and you get a red one because you're a girl, and your brother gets the blue because blue is for boys'. There's one million other examples.

It's just neverending sexist bullshit. The mother doesn't work so there is a lot of the time that she and I are with the kids together, so there's no way not to talk to her about this. I'm still yet to figure out if they're in the camp of 'wearing pink will make you gay' (and I'm gay so I'm almost looking forward to when they actually say this and I can say 'oh sorry, I didn't realise it was a problem for you') or if they're just very traditional in the dumbest sense.

All this said, they treat me incredibly well and think I'm the best thing since sliced bread. And it just makes my blood boil. I keep trying to teach the girl that there are no boy colors or girl colors and that there are lots of boys who love ballet or that she can be a truck driver, but I am no power against the parents.

I don't have a question, it's just more of a rant. But has anyone ever worked with people like that who are stuck in the previous century? Would you say anything, try to explain that hair is just hair and can be long on all genders? I usually say 'oh I think it's okay, there's loads of boys who pink' or whatever they're being stupid about, but I never get deep into it to make them think. Would you?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics