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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Huge red flag OP!

The family is likely the type who feels that since you are on their dime, they want you to be the one who entertains the children...Something they do not want to do themselves sadly.

They probably use television to entertain the kids themselves.

Sure there are some nannies on this forum who believe it is the family's right since they are BOSS.

I strongly disagree. 
I think both parents + nanny need to work together & be consistent w/the children's rules. That is what makes such a dynamic W-O-R-K.

Working as a team.
How confusing for the kids to be banned from the T.V. only when the nanny is there.

What kind of confusing message would that be sending to them.....??![/quote]

So you and your employers in force exactly the same set of rules 100% of the time? I doubt that that is the case. I am sure that there are lots  of situations in which the way that you do things differs slightly from the way the families does things.  Are those instances so confusing for the children that they cannot possibly function? Or do the children manage to realize early on that different adults have different rules and standards and adjust their behavior accordingly?  In my experience it is the latter.  I often have charges who will not behave for parents or for grandparents but who do behave for me or for the preschool teacher or for their aunt. I also have had charges who have different rules in different situations with different caregivers and the children learn how to code switch early on. They know what the rules are with different people and they don't push it. Unless the child has special needs and therefore needs more consistency in a neurotypical child would,  there is no reason why they cannot figure out very quickly what is expected of them by whom and under what circumstances. Having to adapt to the environment and people around you is a part of life and there's no reason why kids can't learn that early on.

It has less to do with boss is being bossy and nannies being doormats and more to do with employers who are juggling a lot more than just childcare and nannies who can and should have lots of experience both entertaining and managing the behavior of small children.   Would it be great if every parent I worked for was just as good at managing their children as I am? Sure, in theory, but if they were that great at parenting kids, why would they not choose to be a stay-at-home parent? And I don't particularly like working with SAHPs.  So instead, I am brace the idea that everyone the child interacts with will bring their own expectations and ideas and that the children benefit from that diverse city. As long as the parents support me in the rules that I enforce during my time with them, it doesn't matter if they enforce something different during their time with them. [/quote]

09.16 here.  That's great for you.  I've been on the other side of the fence, dealing with 4 kids who rebelled completely and ended up hating me because the parents refused to be truthful.  I know how to wean kids away from vices, it's not like it's new to me.  But you wouldn't expect kids to react well to going cold turkey on two or more vices which were all overindulged if done at the same time, would you?[/quote]

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