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[quote=Anonymous] I am a nanny to six-month-old twins. From the time that the babies were born, both parents have had a lot going on at their respective jobs, more according to them than is usual.  They expect the ups and downs, extra projects, and work travel for both jobs to wrap up sometime around next summer or early fall.  The family is very kind, respectful, and appreciative, and the kids are sweet. I would love to work for them for many years.  The issue that I have, is that a big part of me constantly feels that I am not quite meeting their expectations. I have asked them about this head on, and pointed out times when they seemed disappointed or annoyed with the way that I handled something or times when the way I communicated  was apparently unclear.  Every time I broach the subject, they reassure me that they are happy to have me and appreciate how much I love their kids,  but I am never really reassured by this.

I sort of suspect that we are not really on the same page about a lot of things, and a lot of the stuff that they express appreciation over is things that I can tell they think are nice, but are not really priorities for them (e.g., they think that it is nice that I  make all of the babies' food from scratch, but that's not necessarily important for them and if instead I fed them out of a jar, the parents would be just fine with that).   I feel like the biggest thing that I am good at that they actually value is simply the fact that I am very flexible and have adapted to schedule changes as each of them deal with crises at work.  I guess my feeling is, that if the thing they value most about me is my flexibility, but they will no longer actually need very much flexibility six months from now, and we don't appear to be a great fit in other ways, then eventually they will care less about the flexibility and more about the other ways in which we are not an ideal match.  I am not sure how or whether to really address this, and I also wonder if I am just overthinking the whole thing and need to chill out. Has anyone been in a situation like this? [/quote]

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