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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MB here, and I may be like your MB.  I have had three nannies, and the two that ended up being with us long term just went along with the flow of the household, which is basically "clean up if you have the time and the inclanation."  If one of the kids are sick, or you spent all morning at the zoo, and you just want to relax while they nap in the afternoon or you are spending the afternoon making a potty training sticker chart, and you can't or sont want to do the dishes, that's fine by me.  I will do them.  And if I can't or don't want to do the dishes one day, then you will return the favor.  
We had one nanny who wasn't with us long who did what the pp above suggested, and she would just handwash *her* dishes and leave the rest for me.  It was really passive aggressive.  She was like that with a lot of things and seemed to think that every mess was some kind of signal to her.  Like if one of the kids left their bike in the yard, she would see it as being left for her to pick up.  
My advice is to do the dishes or don't.  If you don't have te to do the dishes one day, your MB isn't going to fire you.  And if you sometimes leave her the kids lunch dishes to do, then maybe you won't feel so put put by the whole thing.  This isn't a signal about what your job duties.  It's just dishes.
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This is ridiculous. For one, most people don't go through three nannies. I would never, absolutely never, leave dishes from the day for the parents to clean up. I can and will find the time to clean up after myself. This isn't a give and take, iris you taking and taking more.

OP, I had this issue, and still do to an extent.  I can handle breakfast dishes that have apparently become my responsibility, but I am absolutely not cleaning your entire kitchen and your dinner mess from the night before. I always try to pitch in to help the house run smoothly but there are a couple times I've walked in to a complete disaster. One day I piled all their dirty dishes into a pile on the counter and in the sink. I couldn't even use the counter to make lunch had I not done this. MB came home and asked what the mess was. I said I didn't know as it wasn't our mess. I'm not your damn housekeeper. Hire one or clean up after yourself. When the baby was younger I hand washed everything. This behavior started when I started sharing the dishwasher. [/quote]

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