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[quote=Anonymous]I've been with my nanny family just over a year, they have a 2 year old and a 10 month old. Usually baby has a short morning nap and they both nap for 1.5-2 hours in the afternoon, but yesterday was rough as both kids weren't feeling well, and neither napped well and their naps didn't overlap at all. I still rinsed all our dishes from the day in the afternoon and washed them in the dishwasher; it was full of clean dishes (and the sink was empty) when I left at 5pm. Today when I arrived at 8am MB excitedly told me that both children had slept through the night (down at 8pm, awake at 7:30am), then she and DB hurried off to work. The dishwasher has not been emptied, and the sink is full of dirty dishes from dinner last night and MB and DBs breakfast (I make breakfast for the kids when I arrive). I checked their calendar as some nights one or both parents have things going on, but there was nothing.

I've been noticing a lot of small instances of job creep lately; there have been several times recently when I show up in the morning and MB and DB have left one mug and one plate and one fork each from breakfast, but I've just gone ahead and washed them myself because I want to be helpful and just a couple extra plates is no big deal. There have been other things like the fact that MB and DB used to always arrive home 5-10 mins early so we could have a quick chat about the day and I could still leave on time, but lately they're arriving right at 5 or a few mins after and still expecting me to stay and chat for 5 or more mins, etc.

What would you do? I guess there are two questions I need to answer:
1. Should I do their dirty dishes from when I was off duty or should I leave them in the sink? 
2. Should I say anything about it?

When they hired me they told me no chores were required as my main responsibility was taking care of the children. I told them (verbally) I'd be happy to wash the dishes we dirtied throughout the day and try to keep the house tidy. The contact mentions child care but does not mention dishes or any chores. But I always use afternoon nap time to do dishes, tidy up the kitchen and play areas, and occasionally run a load of kids laundry if needed. If I don't do their dishes today it will be the first day they'll come home to dirty dishes in the sink since I started working with them. I don't want them to be upset or think I'm being passive aggressive. I also don't think they fully understand (since I've never specifically said to them that I only wash dishes I dirty myself in the course of my day with the children and not the parents dishes); I'm their first nanny and I took over when grandma was no longer able to provide full time care and I'm sure she didn't differentiate between parents dishes and her own dishes and the baby's dishes.

So what should I do? [/quote]

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