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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that with a preschooler a significant part of your job is controlling/managing these kinds of behaviors.

Obviously that starts with the parents.  Have you discussed this with them?[/quote]
While it is a significant part of my job, the behaviors are very extreme, I am very partime and I've not been here long, so nothing I do will make a difference.  I'm at the point I'm doing what I can to get through the few hours I works for them.

There doesn't seem to be anything being done by the parents other than to excuse the behavior as age appropriate .  While I understand it's age appropriate to have these behaviors to an extent, this is very extreme and scary.  The child is also known to make things up about people and that really concerns me since the child has made false accusations about/to me already.

I agree that it may just be time to quit.  But what do I tell them or the families I interview about why I'm leaving.  I don't want to lose out on a reference. [/quote]

There is no reason that a nanny should be spending a significant portion of her day dealing with behavior unless there are diagnosed issues.  If your charge's behavior is that extreme and you are very part-time, you're right that you won't be able to do much (or anything) to curb it.  However, I would approach the family and let them know that you just don't feel it's a good fit, start looking for work and let them know that you will stay up to four weeks (that way they have someone to cover Christmas break and you're more likely to get a reference).  If you word it as up to four weeks, they may find someone who can start before Christmas, and then you won't have to deal with the child anymore.[/quote]

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