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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My real answer is that I would quit.  I could not deal with that.

But if you aren't ready to jumo ship yet, I would start tracking every conversation with her and proactively updating her in a form she can see.

E.g., she says, "Oh, please remember to wash Larla's soccer uniform. Also, can you please cook that cauliflower and make sure the kids make a card for teacher appreciation week?"

You: "Got it.  I will wash Larla's uniform tomorrow morning in time for her practice tomorrow night.  I cooked the cauliflower 3 days ago, but I will cook some asparagus tonight.  The kids can do their teacher appreciation card on Thursday before ballet."

Then as soon as she leaves the room you update a file in your smartphone notes to reflect the new schedule:

Tuesday: 
Breakfast: XYZ
Packed lunches: 
NK1 needs to bring her trombone to school
NK2 needs permission slip signed (in green folder on the desk)
Nanny wash Larla's soccer uniform
Afterschool snack: 
NK2 piano practice
Practice sight words 
NK1 soccer practice 
Dinner:

Etc. etc. etc.

Basically write down EVERYTHING you do/plan to do every single day and proactively send an email/text daily (or multiple times per day) with an uodated schedule for the coming week.

Frankly, it sounds to me like she has ADD and probably some anxiety and those are not things that you can fix.[/quote]

Yes believe me I've looked into some other jobs and looked at things available at the agency she hired me through.  Of course like always I love these kids and she is already super stressed with her husband living in another state, I'm afraid it'll send her over the deep end if I give notice.  She can be very diplomatic. I had to send her an email about her mother helicoptering (lol made up word) me when visits and she was very nice and firm in having my back and saying she knows how her mom is. She even told me to always come to her if I ever feel like I'm wanting to quit so we can work things out.  But I'm not sure how receptive she'll be when it's her I need to talk to her about.

But yes I'm definitely going to start keeping track of these repetitive convos and excessive calls/texts.  When they first moved here they weren't in a home yet and when she moved she actively looked for something to rent that would better my commute and hers so I appreciate that.

I know that their last nanny in their previous state was not American and English wasn't her first language, the nanny before her was and older lady.  So I wonder if this is why she rides me so hard.  But ADD or OCD definitely make sense.  There's something mental going on.  And on top of all of this she is always eerily calm even when frantic.  It's hard to explain.[/quote]

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