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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We did invite our nanny to DS's birthday party last year, just family and the nanny were invited, and she attended.  This year I would prefer if the party was just family and a few close friends.  [b]No reason really.  I just think that DS is too attached to his nanny and would like to separate a bit.[/b]  Nanny has asked me twice about DS's birthday party and I have said that I hadn't decided.

What should I tell her?   [/quote]

MB here.

There is a reason and you clearly state it above.

You established a precedent last year.  If you are doing nothing different this year, other than excluding the nanny, then you are obviously excluding the nanny.  If I were the nanny I would be hurt and confused.

If you want to exclude her in a way that doesn't hurt her feelings then you need to significantly alter the birthday celebration.  Take your son somewhere and invite the close family, let a grandparent host and tell the nanny that you delegated everything to the grandparents this year, etc...

If you don't do something very different then you will harm the relationship with your nanny.

Honestly OP, I think you need to deal with the underlying concerns you have about your child's relationship with his nanny.  Without knowing anything more this does read very much like maternal insecurity and that will create far bigger issues over time than any individual party or family event.  Little harm comes from being the biggest hearted, best version of yourself.  If that's what is going on try to address that in a more positive way.[/quote]

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