Anonymous wrote:We did invite our nanny to DS's birthday party last year, just family and the nanny were invited, and she attended. This year I would prefer if the party was just family and a few close friends. No reason really. I just think that DS is too attached to his nanny and would like to separate a bit. Nanny has asked me twice about DS's birthday party and I have said that I hadn't decided.


What should I tell her?

You are an ass, OP. If your son is attached to his nanny, he wants here there. Think about your child and not yourself (for once in your sorry life).

Signed - and MB

Mom doesn't know how to be a responsible mom.

Anonymous wrote:We did invite our nanny to DS's birthday party last year, just family and the nanny were invited, and she attended. This year I would prefer if the party was just family and a few close friends. No reason really. I just think that DS is too attached to his nanny and would like to separate a bit. Nanny has asked me twice about DS's birthday party and I have said that I hadn't decided.


What should I tell her?

You are going to hurt her feelings because you are immature, jealous, and pathetic? You need to grow up or stay home and take care of your child.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - so one invitation to one birthday party means the guest has to be invited every single year of the rest of the celebrants life?!

She's not just a guest. She spends most of his waking hours with him. She cares for him every day. She should be included in the celebration of his milestones. Try making this about your son and not you. Do you think he'd want her there?

Anonymous wrote:LOL


This is not a situation you will have to worry about next year, OP. Your nanny will be long gone by then.

+1

LOL


This is not a situation you will have to worry about next year, OP. Your nanny will be long gone by then.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - so one invitation to one birthday party means the guest has to be invited every single year of the rest of the celebrants life?!

You need your own nanny to help you grow up a litttle.
What kind of childhood did you have, OP?

Don't worry, OP. She already knows you are jealous and insecure. The birthday party will just be one more way that you try to undermine the relationship between your son and the person who spends all day with him. Enjoy the cold shoulder you will undoubtedly earn from future DIL with this attitude.

Anonymous wrote:We did invite our nanny to DS's birthday party last year, just family and the nanny were invited, and she attended. This year I would prefer if the party was just family and a few close friends. No reason really. I just think that DS is too attached to his nanny and would like to separate a bit. Nanny has asked me twice about DS's birthday party and I have said that I hadn't decided.


What should I tell her?

MB here.

There is a reason and you clearly state it above.

You established a precedent last year. If you are doing nothing different this year, other than excluding the nanny, then you are obviously excluding the nanny. If I were the nanny I would be hurt and confused.

If you want to exclude her in a way that doesn't hurt her feelings then you need to significantly alter the birthday celebration. Take your son somewhere and invite the close family, let a grandparent host and tell the nanny that you delegated everything to the grandparents this year, etc...

If you don't do something very different then you will harm the relationship with your nanny.

Honestly OP, I think you need to deal with the underlying concerns you have about your child's relationship with his nanny. Without knowing anything more this does read very much like maternal insecurity and that will create far bigger issues over time than any individual party or family event. Little harm comes from being the biggest hearted, best version of yourself. If that's what is going on try to address that in a more positive way.

Tell her the truth, you're jealous, insecure and don't want her there. It's too bad it took two years for her to see your true colors.

OP here - so one invitation to one birthday party means the guest has to be invited every single year of the rest of the celebrants life?!

Get some help, OP. You need it. Badly.
Or you're a troll.

Luckily, this is only a conversation you will only need to have once. Your nanny will quit soon after your DC's birthday.

You should tell her you're insecure.

We did invite our nanny to DS's birthday party last year, just family and the nanny were invited, and she attended. This year I would prefer if the party was just family and a few close friends. No reason really. I just think that DS is too attached to his nanny and would like to separate a bit. Nanny has asked me twice about DS's birthday party and I have said that I hadn't decided.


What should I tell her?