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[quote=Anonymous]Sounds like the parents have a difficult marriage overall, not just when it comes to agreeing on the best childcare option for their kid. Don't take that personally. Be worried for your charge. It sounds like the dad has anger issues - who curses like that to his wife? My husband & I have gotten into some heated arguments over the years but he's never said anything remotely like that - and I'd hardly put us up as the poster married couple of healthy communication.

That said, I think arguing over what tasks to ask, and not ask, of the nanny is a source of debate in any marriage where the dad is checked-in and cares, and hasn't just outsourced all parenting decisions to the mom. In the specific example you gave, dad probably came home, was annoyed that the pool was still filled, muttered something under his breath, but didn't ask his wife. It didn't occur to her to explain it to him. Kid witnesses it and tells you, but it all was a broken communication chain. There are a number of things that my husband asks of the nanny without checking with me first - probably because I'll tell him to give her a break. Conversely, I tell nanny that such & such doesn't need to happen today and then my husband complains to me that nanny is letting things slip - I tell him that I made that call, not nanny, but how many scenarios does this happen for when DH & I never compare notes? Probably a lot. Don't take it personally. These are minor annoyances on our part, mostly directed at each other, and we're overall happy with the nanny. [/quote]

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