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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Been there, done that.  Children hear parental arguments even when the parents think they're asleep.  Child loves nanny, so tells nanny what child heard.

It's a classic case of doing what one parent wants when the other parent either doesn't want that done or didn't know that was asked.  [b]I would recommend that you ask the parents to get childcare for tomorrow night so that the three of you can talk without listening ears.  Both parents need to know that the child is hearing arguments and worrying.  Both parents also need to hear from you that they need to be on the same page and bring concerns to you if it's about how you are doing your job.[/b]  Tread carefully around anything else, as you don't know if they are arguing about everything and this is a precursor to divorce.

BTW, this is why I prefer to work with single parents (divorced or widowed).[/quote]

I strongly advise you NOT to do this. DB is calling MB a bad mother. He is not going to respond well to a request for a sit-down from the nanny. THis will end in yelling and accusations from him. If you do not usually interact with DB, don't start now.

I do think this is a good approach, though, but only directed to MB. You don't have to tell her what it is he's repeated (she knows, and it gives her at least the illusion that maybe you haven't heard all the dirt), only that he's hearing the fights and repeating what he's heard, and that he seems worried and you are concerned.

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