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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am the poster of my nanny family abruptly moving for a job offer. I am still in a state of shock because I got an apartment closer to them and MB and I just discussed future stuff days before they informed me. They did offer to help me to find a position, told me how much they loved me and were worried about my charge leaving me, and half-jokingly stated that I come with them. I am very shocked because we both agreed on long-term and they were very tied to their jobs. I didn't see this happening and I know it's a tough decision on their part. MB had to quit a job she loved.

How do you MB's feel about leaving a nanny behind or letting a beloved nanny go? Does it suck just as much for you as the nanny? I know it wasn't their intentions but it sucks that I will now be out of a job and have to look for another quickly. Weigh in please.[/quote]

You need to work through some things. You have been with this family for what, like 4 months? It is just not healthy or normal for you to be dwelling on this so much so that you need to start TWO threads on the topic. How much more sympathy do you require?[/quote]

I have no issue to work through. I am very upset about having been blindsided and have to look for a new position when days earlier, I spoke with MB about future play-dates, classes, etc., only to be be given notice days later. I know I will find a new family but I am upset about lack of any commitment on their part. I've had numerous mothers try to poach me to be their nanny but I declined out of loyalty. I worked my school schedule around my work schedule, only to have this happen. I undertand it happens but I am contemplating being less loyal and trusting in future families. [/quote]
Well said, OP. Many of us nannies have been taken advantage of, in similar ways. It's heartless. The parenting methods of such parents boil down to a spread sheet and net worth.
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Oh shove it.

They are moving out of state for work, not dropping the nanny to pay for a cheaper one. This is hardly "heartless," it's the reality of life.

OP I agree that it was not ideal that your MB kept up the pretense of your staying long-term if she knew the job transfer was a possibility, but who knows what went on behind closed doors. Maybe she was completely opposed to the move and was proceeding accordingly, assuming that her husband wouldn't take it. Then, for whatever reason, they decided they needed to. Or maybe it was a very last minute offer that required a quick response. It does you no good to make assumptions and I really agree with the PP that you need to get over it.

If you'd gotten engaged (another life event that often happens quickly and at least somewhat by surprise) and your fiancé needed to move out of state for work, you'd have needed to give notice too - despite all of your intentions and assurances that you wanted to stay. Life is just like that. It isn't personal and it isn't disrespectful, it's just reality. [/quote]

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