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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Make Grandma part of your team. If she is there before you dress the baby, ask Grandma to dress her. Ask if she would like to go with you to places.  Get her on your side. Or, just learn to let whatever she says slide off your back.

Ignore the comments and just keep it positive. Or say things like, thank you for that suggestion, I will keep it in mind for the next time.

If it really becomes an issue, speak to the parents.  [/quote]

Aye, I do this constantly. It seems the easiest route. She's mostly nice and has a good heart, but since she came to live, my autonomy is zero. I finally bargained for gym alone today- she goes everywhere with us- because with me, the baby is adventurous, with gm present, she clings to her and cries.

I'm also dealing with cultural differences, there's a bit of a servant mentality that's old school- we take care of you, but you do everything we ask. The parents are more modern but even so my job creep has been crazy. But, when I was sick, they paid for two weeks off (I was very ill), and I get random days off when they vacation. They value me but I feel put upon many days. I'm so used to being trusted and having autonomy with the kids. It's an adjustment and I want to learn and grow, since this is a long term position.

I feel with the cultural idea of accept all family, no matter what, speaking up might make it worse. At my year sit down, I thought I'd ask for positive suggestions for getting along with gm best I can. I've heard the dad argue with her, but not mom. [/quote]

Then you really need to sit down and talk with the parents.  Maybe Grandma needs a gentle nudge to find her own life and not cling to you and the baby all the time. I don't know if she is new to the area or has moved in because she can't be on her own, but she just could be uncomfortable with getting out on her own. [/quote]

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