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[quote=Anonymous]I am a nanny for an Eighteen Month old Boy. He is a horrible napper. When it comes time for his nap, he tries [i]anything and everything[/i] in his power to protest it.

He will claim he's hungry, thirsty, wants to play toys or read just "one more book" again and again.

Finally I put him down and then he of course cries and cries.

Now if it was my child, I would simply let him cry it out until he fell asleep on his own. In fact, that is how I sleep-trained my own children and while the crying it out lasted about 2 weeks max and was tough, the final outcome was so worth it. They learned that no matter what, they [u]had[/u] to take a nap and no matter how long they cried, no one was going to come in + pick them up and soothe them every five minutes.

Well this child's parents do not believe in CIO and that is their personal choice, I am the nanny and my job is to follow their rule and do as I am instructed which is if he cries more than five minutes, I go into his room, pick him up and cradle/soothe him until he stops, then put him back down in his crib. This is to be done until he falls asleep, but if he doesn't fall asleep after say 45 min., then they say go ahead and forgo the nap which I honestly dread, because then he is so cranky the rest of the day it is unbearable!!!!!!  :-(

Anyway, the other day I was having a hard time getting him to sleep and was honestly desperate I admit. So when I stuck back in his crib for the fifth or sixth time screeching at the top of his lungs, I had an idea. I asked him if he wanted me to lay down next to the crib while he napped. I used a stuffed animal as a make-shift pillow and closed my eyes. He suddenly quieted down and said "Yes." Then knowing that I was laying next to his crib, he quieted down and seconds later, he was out like a light. I then got up and left and he got his nap in.  :D  Happy Ending, right? Wrong!!

When I told MB about my new idea and how it got him to fall asleep faster and easier, she wasn't too thrilled.
She told me now he would expect that of her + her husband in the future. In other words, to get him to nap or sleep in general later on, they will have to lay down next to him on the floor by the crib.

I told her I didn't think so...That he would only expect it of me, but she disagreed.

She said I had just opened up Pandora's Box and now I have created a problem on top of another problem.

Needless to say she isn't happy with me right now and things are awkward.

I have layed down next to other kids who didn't like naps before and their parents were cool....Why is she making a big deal about it?[/quote]

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