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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd. 
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents.  Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present. 
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together.  The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny" 
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.

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Having a parent home that a child can not see or spend time with is torture to a child. Basically child abuse. My mom hates me so much that she will only check on me if I cry. So I cry and make everyone around me miserable. The mindset of a 4 yr old. I have no issue if a parent is home. But know your place.  Thankfully most do. And the whole nanny is sleeping, having friends over, on the phone the whole time . Really yes I talk more and text more when the parents are gone. But sleep and have people over that's not the norm pretty extreme.

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Your post doesn't make any sense.  It's absurd to say that having a parent home is torture or child abuse.  With that said though I don't agree with the first PP either. I'm an MB who sometimes works from home and I do everything I can to stay out of the way.  When the nanny comes I say goodbye to the children as if I was leaving to go to work but instead I'm going upstairs.  If I need to come downstairs for something I try to do it when they are in another room or when they leave the house so they don't see me.  If I absolutely can't wait then I come in and out quickly and if the children ask me for something I tell them to ask the nanny.  If someone cries I let her handle it because I know that she is perfectly capable of dealing with it and comforting them.  It won't help to have me swooping in and taking over just to leave again.

OP, I'm sorry you have to deal with this but it could be that MB just doesn't realize the problems this is causing.  When you talk to her I would approach it from the standpoint of what is better for the children, not that it's difficult for you.  I think that would probably go over better.  Try to come up with a thoughtful plan but don't suggest she stay away completely.  Maybe something like she can come in when they are having lunch to spend time with them but when lunch is over she goes back to work as the children move on to the next activity.  Be prepared though that she might not respond well and may just want a nanny who doesn't care how often she comes in.  In that case you may be better moving on anyway.  Good luck![/quote]

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