Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd.
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present.
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.



You are precisely the kind of parent no nanny wants to work for. Your generalized contempt for all nannies is all over your post. If this is what you think of all nannies, you really ought to consider other childcare solutions. Its not healthy to cycle through caregivers like a pair of socks, which I'm sure is exactly what you're doing.

NP here and you are really off your meds, immediate PP. The poster you're bullying had not expressed any contempt for nannies and your suggestion that they cycle through caregivers is both odd and presumptive.

So, you have a personal issue with working with parents who work at home. Fine. But own it as your issue and stop with trying to make it a legit issue.

Her post was dripping with contemptuous generalizations. You don't understand what contempt or bullying are, clearly. And I said nothing about work at home parents. I really don't care. I commented on that particular poster's attitude toward nannies in general, and stated that if that is how she views us as a whole, she'd be better off going with another option. Do people who hate driving buy sports cars? Do people who fear water buy boats? She doesn't like nannies or at least she thinks very little of us, so why oh why do you employ one? She likely is cycling through caregivers, and that truly isn't healthy for her kid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd.
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present.
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.

Having a parent home that a child can not see or spend time with is torture to a child. Basically child abuse. My mom hates me so much that she will only check on me if I cry. So I cry and make everyone around me miserable. The mindset of a 4 yr old. I have no issue if a parent is home. But know your place. Thankfully most do. And the whole nanny is sleeping, having friends over, on the phone the whole time . Really yes I talk more and text more when the parents are gone. But sleep and have people over that's not the norm pretty extreme.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd.
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present.
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.



You are precisely the kind of parent no nanny wants to work for. Your generalized contempt for all nannies is all over your post. If this is what you think of all nannies, you really ought to consider other childcare solutions. Its not healthy to cycle through caregivers like a pair of socks, which I'm sure is exactly what you're doing.

NP here and you are really off your meds, immediate PP. The poster you're bullying had not expressed any contempt for nannies and your suggestion that they cycle through caregivers is both odd and presumptive.

So, you have a personal issue with working with parents who work at home. Fine. But own it as your issue and stop with trying to make it a legit issue.

Anonymous wrote:
The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd.
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present.
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.



You are precisely the kind of parent no nanny wants to work for. Your generalized contempt for all nannies is all over your post. If this is what you think of all nannies, you really ought to consider other childcare solutions. Its not healthy to cycle through caregivers like a pair of socks, which I'm sure is exactly what you're doing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd.
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present.
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.

Having a parent home that a child can not see or spend time with is torture to a child. Basically child abuse. My mom hates me so much that she will only check on me if I cry. So I cry and make everyone around me miserable. The mindset of a 4 yr old. I have no issue if a parent is home. But know your place. Thankfully most do. And the whole nanny is sleeping, having friends over, on the phone the whole time . Really yes I talk more and text more when the parents are gone. But sleep and have people over that's not the norm pretty extreme.

Anonymous wrote:The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd.
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present.
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd.
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present.
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.

Having a parent home that a child can not see or spend time with is torture to a child. Basically child abuse. My mom hates me so much that she will only check on me if I cry. So I cry and make everyone around me miserable. The mindset of a 4 yr old. I have no issue if a parent is home. But know your place. Thankfully most do. And the whole nanny is sleeping, having friends over, on the phone the whole time . Really yes I talk more and text more when the parents are gone. But sleep and have people over that's not the norm pretty extreme.

Anonymous wrote:The OP probably has a job because the mom works from home, so the idea that the mom is going to "make herself scarce" to make the nanny more comfortable is absurd.
Many of the nannies here have the idea that there should be no challenges in a job other than those the child presents. Nowhere is it written than nannies are to be purely autonomous employees who do not have to be considerate of the parents when they are present.
It honestly does raise red flags to me when so many nannies have this attitude that if a parent dares to be present, then the job is suddenly a nightmare. WTF? It definitely makes me think that the concern for the child is feigned, when so few people ask how to make it easier on the child, but rather, how to make it easier on the nanny by removing the parent. OP needs to be able to communicate her concerns with the parent, and come to a conclusion about how to handle it together. The answer is not going to be for the mom to say, "well let me just leave and not see my children all day, despite the fact that I chose a career that allows me to work from home for the very reason that I can see and participate in my children's lives during the day.... because that makes it so much easier and convenient for you nanny"
Sure, I can understand why some nannies shy away from these positions. Most people would love a job that involves no interaction with a boss or supervisor where you can spend your day on your cell phone, looking at your lap top, reading books, sleeping on the couch, having friends over etc.... But when you did not apply for and accept a job where the mom works exclusively out of the home, you can not expect to then make it such after you start working.