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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MB here. What I am wondering is, will the surgeries she is facing bring her back to 100%? Also, what is HER plan for paying for what insurance doesn't cover? I mean, if her plan is to look sadly at you with puppy eyes until you say you'll pay for it, that's not cool.

I understand you want her to stay with nannying your kids for the future - I want my kid to only have one nanny too - but maybe she's had a hard life. And hard living affects different people differently. Maybe at 50 she is slowing down to where someone in their late 70's might be. The reality may be that you simply need to get someone else, and have Lucy as your backup for THAT person.

[b]The refusal to go out in snow after living here for 30 years would be a deal-breaker for me. I'd happily send my husband out to fetch her from home in the evening and have her sleep over so she ensures being at work in the morning. But refusing to take the kids out would be unacceptable[/b]. [/quote]

I agree with this. I am a foreigner and come from a warm place (winter temperature seldom gets to 32F, and if so, just for a few days, snows about once every 15 years). I have been in DC for 12 years, and my kids were out sledding this week end, and they go out all the time even when is very cold. if she has been here for 30 years, it is unbelievable that the nanny is not used to this weather, kids need to go out, if she does not like it she needs to move to Florida or suck it up. she cannot keep them inside for weeks because she does not like the cold.

from your message, I get that you need a new nanny but feel guilty about dumping Lucy. the hard reality is that this is a relationship between employee and employer, and you should treat it as such. this does not mean kicking the nanny to the curb the first day she is sick. but if she cannot work for an extended period of time, or if she become unreliable, you need to think what is going to happen to YOUR job (and your spouse's job) if you keep having to scramble for care for your kids.  unfortunately, you are not her family and cannot feel that void. talk to the nanny and ask her how she is planning to face the situation, but be careful about not making this your problem, unless you want it to be your problem[/quote]

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