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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will say that it sounds like she is getting comfortable, and she is not the most professional (but you knew you didn't hire a professional right?). However, it seems like the majority of your issues are her scaling back on EXTRA duties. Work on getting her to do the things you are actually paying her for (showing up on time, etc.) and be grateful for the extra things she did when she did them. If you want to renegotiate and make those extras actual duties, by all means, but it IS a renegotiation. Alternatively, you could let her go, and structure a new position to include the extra things your current nanny used to do. Keep in mind that your children will be napping less and less. [/quote]

Thanks!  I also did not mention previously that since she does not drive a lot of things are a pain for her to do.  So, every time she needs us to get something for her from the store or whatever errand we always always do that.  We call places on her behalf, etc.  So, it is not like she is doing EXTRA things for us and we are these inconsiderate people.  I try to reciprocate and help in any way that I can
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It sounds like your relationship has gotten way too familiar, and professional boundaries were never established. She should never have started doing a whole bunch of extra housework from the jump that she couldn't maintain, as now you're used to it and it feels like you're getting less for your money. You are crossing boundaries as well by helping her take care of things that functioning adults should handle themselves, and by no means should be the responsibility of their employer. I don't think the dynamics can be fixed at this point and if you want things to be different, you'll need a new nanny. [/quote]

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