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[quote=Anonymous]I second seeing a therapist. You have some unresolved issues that you need to face with support. Even if this is an "inner dialogue" rant it is not the appropriate feelings you should be having. Wishing you could see them grow up is okay but describing yourself as a third parent being ripped away is not. You have become too attached to these children and lost yourself in a role that was never given to you.  You were the nanny, not the third parent. You had no real say in anything that wasn't trivial. 
I had a similar situation that I seeked out support for, I became very upset when parents would allow their children to watch show that weren't age appropriate, eat unhealthy food or use discipline tactics that weren't effective after I would discuss it or suggest more appropriate things. I never showed my anger but did realize it was unhealthy. When I spoke to my therapist, we discovered that I had some unresolved issues from my horrible childhood. I was over Compensating for my childhood by trying to do everything "right" for the children I cared for. I wanted to give them what I wasn't given. I need to take a step back and realize this was my issue, not theirs and I had to "let go". [/quote]

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