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[quote=Anonymous]Hi everyone, I've been a live-in nanny and relocated to DC to run away from my ex-boyfriend. I was very young when all of this started, about 17, and I suppose felt very, very attached to him. Here's what the problem was: I was 17 and he was 32. I know he was not old enough to really by my father, but still he was up there. I realized after 5 years that a 15 year age difference is significant. There were also tons of other problems too. It was very hard to break up with him because 
1. I was soooooo attracted to him. he was really hot 
2.I knew I would be pretty much "homeless" 
3. I do not have a close relationship with my family at all. My mother passed away when I was a child and my father has never really been loving. 
4. I was a student with a very low-paying job. I nannied part-time and the economy where I lived was very depressed. 
5. I liked having that "love" feeling from my boyfriend and feeling like we had a family unit. It was hard to leave that.

So I finally broke things off with him at age 22. I lived with a girlfriend for a month or so before moving to DC. A friend of mine was interning here and gave me the idea to move to DC. I searched for a live-in nanny job through sittercity and accepted a job after coming to DC and meeting them. It turned out to be an okay situation for a while because I was so desperate for a job and place to live. The family had job schedule was very demanding and changed ALL THE TIME. They expected me to be available at all times- in exchange for $200/week. Sometimes I would really work part-time (20 hours) and other times it was full-time. This schedule made it nearly impossible to have any kind of social life because I could never be far away from home in case they called me in to work. Finally after 8 months I gave notice and moved on to another live-in nanny job with a neighbor! I was doing side babysitting for her and explained the situation so she offered me a live-in arrangement and also a car! I worked 10/hours in exchange for a free rent and I was able to find a full-time job to work around her schedule. I am no longer a live-in nanny and understand that a live-in position is NOT for me. I feel no matter how well laid out it is, lives in means you live at work and employers forget about "your" time. It is the nature of the beast and I definitely can't deal with that type of environment.
It was so hard for me to be myself when I lived with my boss.

I also wanted to mentioned that I now with someone who is not so much older and feel that we are at the same phase in life. It's nice being with him and he is so much nicer than my ex-boyfriend too!!!! I don't feel that I missing out anymore or living out some weird father figure fantasy.

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